I went back and forth between wanting 2 or three. DH and I are both from families of three kids (two girls one boy in mine, two boys one girl in his). For a long time we talked about having "one of each". We had wanted to adopt initially, so this was possible to decide. Then we got our infertility diagnosis and moved into adoption, and over a year and a half on the adoption journey, I feel burned out and sick of it all.

We've been foster parents for 4 months to a now almost 11 month old little girl (who is supposed to be going home at some point, but that's still in the air the way things are going), and we're about to adopt a relative of ours due to be born in 2 months.

So we're prepared for one or both of these girls to be ours, and then we're done. And frankly, if God forbid neither works out, we are going to go with zero kids. Adoption is not at all as easy as some say it is. Money really does talk. Even foster care is one hoop after another, so I'm very disillusioned with my ideal society, where all parents would first adopt all the kids in need of loving families before going through great lengths to create biological offspring. I see now that it is NOT that easy.

But right now I'm praying for at least one, maybe even both (if we get to keep our FD.)