I have two boys 12 and 6. I have found positive reinforcement for both (giving rewards for good behavior) to work because I have found that punishing them never works (they are both stubborn). I have recently written an article on some parenting tips that I have found useful from experience. If anyone is interested, here it is http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2641099/are_you_a_good_parent.html?cat=25">