I'm a father asking mothers. I hope you all dont mind the unsolicited questions from a father.

5 children ages 12-20.

I am trying to determine the the correct amount of responsibility around the house and what reasonable expectations should be for children and young men at these ages. 20 year old is a boy and I would expect different expectations for the others 12-15. I understand there are no right one answers to parenting. I am looking for ideas for a large family and the "average standards" for children across most households.

responsibilities like trash, dinner dishes, clothes off of floor, homework rules, bed times, brushing teeth, house cleaning, reminders to wear a hoodie because the mornings are chilly or even waking yourself up in the morning with your own alarm clock.

A good link would help or sharing your personal family responsibilities would be nice.