Hello,
I'm new here, I am so upset with what's happening with my 18 year old daughter and hope someone can help me.

My daughter, who lives at home, has been dating a guy for only a year, they both went to high school together, at first I thought he was nice, he has a terrible background, mother on drugs and is extremely abusive, a long story...
He was thrown out by his mother so has been living with a friend, he has stayed here, on the couch, for a while when the friend decides he's had enough and also throws him out, he is now back at said friend's house....my daughter told me it is serious with this guy, he steals things and pawns them, she says he doesn't drink or do drugs, I know he does, he is completely fooling her and she is putting her life on hold for him, everything is about him and she is always crying over something he has either had done to him... he tells her is getting attacked in the streets, on and on....I've tried to tell her she has to go with her life, he is on probation for attacking someone too, my daughter's I-Pod was stolen in his possession and I cannot help think he has pawned it, she says he did not, when I asked what happened to the I-Pod his whole story made no sense.

Two months ago my daughter told me she was pregnant, I was so upset for her thinking she will now stay with this guy, but of course stood by her, at 4 1/2 months pregnant she lost the baby, she had an ultra sound the week before and could see the babies head and hands....I am so upset for her, she is so depressed, said she can't get the baby's picture out of her head and feels so sad and guilty, I've asked if she wants to talk to someone about everything and she said maybe but not now. She showed me the ultrasound and I broke down.
To top it all this guy said he would never ever tell anyone what happened and other things that have happened that are so personal, she found out he did, I could kill him! Of course he cried and said he was sorry, told her more stories of abuse that happened to him and she feels sorry for him again and right now she's with him, this is killing me, I go to bed crying and breakdown iduring the day, I love her so much but she cannot see what's going on, she is clinging to him.
My husband is not supportive, wants to be her friend more than a father so I am on my own with this, I love her too much to see her hurt but she's going to be isn't she...anyone have any advice? I've stopped bad mouthing this guy as I know that's the wrong thing to do, my daughter is so smart she can go so far, I'm at a loss with how to help her, thank you for any help. sorry this is so long.