Need as much advice as possible
so here goes...
on christmas day 2010 my mother who lived in england passed away suddenly at 49yrs of age, leaving behind my 12 year old brother. years before that id moved to ireland to live with my dad, whos not my brothers dad. after my mums funeral and with long discussions with my other siblings it was decided as i was the only sibling available (and aunts and uncles not fit or suitalbe) my brother would come to live with me in ireland, i was awarded guardian ship, i dont have my own kids, and as i was closest to my little brother who seen him often aswell as my mother, it was decided this was the best option, i quit full time work to part time work, i got him settled into school, its been a year, and hes doing fine. other than the irish/english nit picking from the lads in school (which was a given), and as id moved myself to ireland at the same age, i had warned my little brother is was going to happen. hes grades are very good (much better than my own at his age), hes bright, active, loves his sports, has one very close friend, who always looks out for him.
as our mother passed away i new he would find this subject difficult to accpet, he was raised alone by my mother all his life, its been such a massive change for him, i always talk about our mum just so he knows its not a taboo subject, but the thing is, when he does let me no hes upset over it (which isnt very often, nine times out of ten he will just mention her in passing or in a remember when kind of way) its about as far as it goes, he crys for a few seconds and just changes the subject...... he goes to art therapy in school once a week, going to see a councellor he refuses point blank...any ideas on how to deal with it? suggestions?
the other bit of advice i would love is...all his life hes wet the bed, it runs in the family, and ive tried everything from reducing his drinks before bed, getting him up again every night at the same time, but nothing seems to work so far, my other siblings grew out of it eventually but my parents just let it happen naturally, but if there was a tip or trick, which would mean he could go on school trips etc with out the fear of getting picked on if his mates found out...
any help/advice for a first time scared 25 year old would be appreciated kindly.