I'm kinda torn between wanting 2 and wanting 3. DH isn't even thinking about it yet since our first is only 3 months old. I think it's partly going to depend on whether we can afford a third child or not. I hate to think that way and I'm sure we could make it work if that's what we decide we really want. I definitely don't want more than three.

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Jenny (28)
DH - James (29)
DD - Katy, born 11.26.08

I wanted to have two, but I had my daughter kind of late in the game. So I think she will be an only child

I feel having 2 children is ideal and ours is a ideal family.

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“Kind hearts are the gardens, Kind thoughts are the roots, Kind words are the flowers, Kind deeds are the fruits, Take care of your garden And keep out the weeds, Fill it with sunshine Kind words and kind deeds”

we have 5 kids. 3 boys and 2 girls. And we are done with having kids. The oldest is 17 and youngest is 2 years old

I went back and forth between wanting 2 or three. DH and I are both from families of three kids (two girls one boy in mine, two boys one girl in his). For a long time we talked about having "one of each". We had wanted to adopt initially, so this was possible to decide. Then we got our infertility diagnosis and moved into adoption, and over a year and a half on the adoption journey, I feel burned out and sick of it all.

We've been foster parents for 4 months to a now almost 11 month old little girl (who is supposed to be going home at some point, but that's still in the air the way things are going), and we're about to adopt a relative of ours due to be born in 2 months.

So we're prepared for one or both of these girls to be ours, and then we're done. And frankly, if God forbid neither works out, we are going to go with zero kids. Adoption is not at all as easy as some say it is. Money really does talk. Even foster care is one hoop after another, so I'm very disillusioned with my ideal society, where all parents would first adopt all the kids in need of loving families before going through great lengths to create biological offspring. I see now that it is NOT that easy.

But right now I'm praying for at least one, maybe even both (if we get to keep our FD.)

Wow, 5 definitely sounds like a handful!

My husband and I have two sons who are in middle school, but ideally we want one more, so we are trying for one more now.

Does anyone find a big difference between two and three children? It probably also depends on their respective ages...

-Stephany

3. Hopefully all boys.

We may adopt to throw the odds in our favor

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1 Boy, born 4/21/2010
Probably adopt the second. If you've adopted, PM me please.

I want to have just only 2-3 babies. I think that's the only family that I can sustain. But if God's will to give me a big family because His the one would sustain my needs and needs of my family.

At present, we want three, but I won't rule anything out - if things go as planned, I'll birth #3 at age 32, so I have plenty of time to change my mind! Dh would like to actually plan for having four, but he also knows not to even bring it up until #3 is at least three!