Hi and apologrised for eveyone who read my post previously because of my missed-typing

Please advise, I have 2 and half years old daughter and had adopted her since 3 months age. My husband and I both have to work therefore we are always let some one or the grandparents looking after her until her age 1 and half . Recently we can have a chance looking after our daughter very closely by our side for half year without other people involved. However, ( we both need to go oversea for work, we have to send our daughter back to our )country for grandparents.

Recently, we both have a chance to go back home for a month , and I found my daughter is acting so strange: She dropped all her belonging and ran to cuddles us and cry extremely serious when we pick her up from school, the first week , she act very quiet and doesn't want to speak a lot. Gradually she start talks a lots after the next few weeks however she awaked in half sleep few times and try to use her little her to touch our face, sudden cry and ran away from our cuddles when we go shopping with her.

Please advise why my daughter's behaviour acting so strange and does she really need to see a CHILD PSYCHOLOGY because of unbalance lifestyle

Thanks kindly again

I think it is normal for them because they are too young to know everything that they do and they don't understand it yet. Make sure even your working outside the house you have a time for them to make them feel that they are loved. And to see them growing and to see their development.

Hi,

It seems to me that your child is displaying Resistant Attachment - She is upset when you leave and remains upset when you return even though she is also happy to be with you, especially since she spent such a long time with you before you went to work overseas. I guess as much as she is happy to see you again, she is upset that you will leave her again. This is a form of insecure attachment and may have a negative effect on your future relationship with her and possibly other future relationships for her. I would seek professional advice since your situation is not a common one. It's possible that she will react more positively as she grows older, especially if the breaks apart from you and her are consistent. I suggest you spend as much time with her as possible, when possible, make certain that she knows she is loved and explain to her why you have to be away from her. She may not be able to fully understand now but as she grows older, she will. Be consistent. It's very important that she doesn't blame herself for the long periods of separation. Also, when away from her try to maintain contact with her regularly via telephone, internet or letters/postcards. Let her know that you are still thinking of her when you are away from her. I hope everything works out for you and your family.

Good luck.

hi,
In my Human Development class we learned about the different childhood attachments and it seems like your duaghter is expierenceing some Insecure Resistant Attachment.
The security of attachment in one- to two-year-olds was investigated by Mary Ainsworth in the 'strange situation' study, in order to determine the nature of attachment behaviours and types of attachment.
Your duaghter will gradually grown out of this stage because she will learn eventuall learn to adapt to new situations.