11-09-2010, 5:01 PM
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Teenage Son as Only Child
My son is 18 years old. He is an only child by our choice. We brought him up to be respectful, appreciative, loving and knowing right from wrong. He has always known how loved he is and we have always enjoyed a loving relationship with him. When he turned 17 he got his license and a job. As soon as the independence hit he started doing poorly in school (by choice, admittedly not studying). Tried to help him in every way we could. Quitting work was not the solution. He just all of a sudden got this feeling that he was independent, didn't need us, could make his own decisions. College has dropped out of his radar; if he goes, he wants to go to get away from us. He is very disrespectful to his father and I whereas 1 1/2 years ago we were close. He tells me I embarrass him and thinks that no rules pertain to him. We have rewarded him, punished him, done everything and all he does in return is breaks my heart. How can I save our family and his future? Right now he thinks driving carelessly, texting while driving and being away from us is what he needs. He has no vision for the future. Immature, irresponsible...what do I do? Please help....
            
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11-13-2010, 12:09 AM
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Have you ever read the book The Bonds that Set you Free by Terry Warner? He specifically talks about this scenario and redirects both child and parent in owning their relationships and actions. It is an amazing read and has done wonders in my home. I hope that helps a bit, I know it is hard to see the people you love self destruct.
Best Wishes Admin
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04-02-2011, 5:24 PM
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This won't help I'm sure, but who is paying for that cell phone? Can at least the texting portion of the plan be taken away? Texting and driving is incredibly dangerous, the best (and unfortunate) thing my daughter saw that helped us was an accident right in front of her where a woman admitted she was texting and ran the light when she got hit. My daughter now shuts her phone off when she is in her car. Good luck to you, I wish I had some good words, all I can say is sometimes you have to let your kids fail so they know how it feels and just give them incentive to want to improve.
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07-07-2011, 11:10 AM
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I have a son who is about to turn 17 in the next few weeks and we to have gone through some dramatic changes. Our son was a very happy energetic lovable young chap and then all of a sudden he changed to quite the opposite young man he has become very distant and one of the things he always says is I dont care
 it saddens us a great deal I feel as if he has just slipped away and I dont know what to do. His studies were not important to him our son didnt even want to go to school in his last three years of school it has been a nightmare he just would not go I am at my wits end right now and really just need some help.
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