08-15-2011, 2:48 AM
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Worried sick...
Hello, I am new to the world of forums & chats but I would like to share my story & get feedback or advice from anyone has it. My youngest son is starting kindergarten in 1 week & I have had high anxiety all summer because he is my youngest & I fear for his social adjustment. He is the baby and may be somewhat spoiled so I have always been lenient with his attitude & behavior but no more so than with my oldest son. They are actually very polite & I love them whole heartedly. Last week I took him to his pediatrician because he had failed his hearing test 6 weeks ago due to swimmers ear. After resolving that issue he failed again & I am sure at this point that his speech not being where "it should be for his age" according to the speech therapist we saw on Friday is related to his hearing loss. We have an appointment with an ear, nose & throat specialist tomorrow morning to find out what our options are if any to reverse or stop any further loss. Aside from that both his pediatrician & the speech therapist dropped the possibility of him having ADHD on me & both gave referrals for psychiatric treatment. I know my child better than anyone & I have never denied that he is quite special & different from others both this seems like a nightmare that I just cannot wake up from. The biggest blow came this morning in Sunday school, just before dismissal he was playing tag with the kids & actually physically choked 2 other children because he says they were not playing by the rules. I am absolutely devastated over today's incidents & physical abuse is not OK for anyone. The only agression he has every really shown in to his older brother but I have always linked the to sibling rivalry. The last week has totally thrown me, I am not eating or sleeping well & there has been a very noticeable change in me according to my coworkers & family & as much as I try to focus on my work & family I never feel like I am truly present. Thoughts... Advise...
            
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08-15-2011, 11:05 AM
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The physical aggression may well stem from frustration due to his communication problems. If he can't hear well and his speech is difficult to understand I can definetly see where the frustration could lead to physical aggression. While it is definetly something he has to understand is not acceptable, working on the communication through dealing with the hearing and speech issues may help a lot.
As far as the ADHD, do you know why they are referring you for psychiatric treatment instead of it being treated by the pediatrician?
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08-24-2011, 2:41 AM
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I understand your concerns. My older son has ADHD. I have made many mistakes with him. And the largest was not accepting him for who he was/is. It makes all the difference in the world. I'm not minimizing your worries, but you'll be OK and so will your son.
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01-03-2012, 3:30 AM
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to worried sick
I hope your child's experience in K has been a positive one, thus far. As a K teacher myself, I know all too well the amount of anxiety coupled with the daily excitement mixed with the expected highs and lows along with joy and pain... and that's just for the parents (kidding). The first year is an extreme adjustment for both the parents as well as the child. What I try to explain to my parents, the most important thing, school, (don't fall into any traps of the child or any behaviors dictating your actions or the failing of academics). On the contrary, the first year should be looked at as very special... a time for them to experience new growth, independence and triumphs (maybe some failure... but remember, we grow from our mistakes... learning from consequences). I tell my parents, as a teacher I cannot replace the the love and guidance they will recieve from you, as parents, from your own home. I have them for a mere 5 1/2 hours a day for only 180 days that year.... So, what you say is correct- you do know your own child best. Speak to your child every day. Ask how school was, what they are learning about. Take time to help them with homework and read stories together (snuggling in bed reading, that is time never forgotten). Share an interest in their day... for you are truly the one and only best educator they will ever have for the rest of their lives.
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